The one question you should ask everyone you connect with

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
— Maya Angelou

What if I told you that there was one magic question that you could ask everyone you came into contact with that would make them feel all warm and fuzzy and think of you kindly for the rest of time?

What if I told you that there was an easy and simple way to generate good will within your network, and make people feel like you’re a good person to have on side?

What if I told you that there was a way to make people go out of their way to help you?

Well, there is.

The question you should ask everyone you connect with is this (drumroll please)…

“How can I help you with that?”

Wow! Bam! Fireworks! Explosions!

Well, maybe not fireworks exactly.

It’s such a small thing, a lot of us wouldn’t even think of it. But it goes a looooooong way to helping you build the sorts of strong, giving, reciprocal relationships that you (and your business) want, need, and deserve.

If you’re having a conversation with someone who’s excitedly telling you all about the new project they’re working on, ask them what they need to make it happen. Or what could speed it up for them. Or what could make it easier and less terrifying for them.

And then (this is the important part) actually help!

It doesn’t need to be a huge, time-consuming thing, often the most helpful things are actually tiny – an introduction to a reliable tech whizz who can sort out their janky sign-up form; a link to an article on how to run a kick-ass crowdfunding campaign; sharing the list of business podcasts currently accepting guests which you’ve been compiling; giving their new ecourse a few mentions on your social media accounts…

You get the idea.

Don’t do this to get something back. Don’t go in with an agenda. Just do it because it feels lovely to do, and it makes the other person feel good too. It’s good ‘commercial karma’.

Who can you help today? I guarantee that the goodness and generosity you put out into the world will come back to you tenfold, in one way or another.

Happy helping!